Sometimes it Really is All About the Hair
Posted: Thursday, April 08, 2010
by Brianna Popsickle
My friend called sounding very down. She'd had her hair cut and coloured and was disappointed with it.
"I'm sure it looks fine, Sandra," I said. "You're too hard on yourself."
"No it's really bad Brianna, it's crooked and there's still lots of gray showing through in the front."
I suspected it wasn't the hair that was causing her to feel depressed. The fact was she wasn't happy about a lot of things these days, a single mother in a small apartment, unfulfilled in her work and fighting for support from her ex.
Sometimes, as women, we're our own worst enemies. We compare ourselves to other women who are always thinner, prettier, more intelligent, more successful. Media has led us to believe we can have it all: love, beauty, career, and family. When we come up short in any area, we feel we've failed.
The first things we do are the things that are easy, the things we can control. We get a new hairstyle, buy new clothes, have our nails done. We make the easy to-do quick fixes, that don't fix anything at all. Far easier to blame our unhappiness on a bad hair cut, our weight, or our ex, than it is to delve into the real problems that are just too damn hard to face.
I grabbed my coat and a bottle of wine and headed to Sandra's. She needed a friend, one who understood what she was going through.
I rang the bell and she opened the door.
"Oh," I said, staring at her bewildered.
Her hair looked awful. The cut was uneven and there was lots of gray showing through, just like she'd told me.
Sometimes, as a woman, I'm my own worst enemy. I tend to over think and over analyze everything. Sure my friend's life needed revamping, but obviously, for right now, it really was all about the hair.
I opened the wine as she grabbed two glasses.
"Got scissors?" I asked her. "Cause Sandra, this is only surface stuff, and we can fix it!"
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Top-level comments on this article: (8 total)Good stuff! I have had hair cuts like that and perms - one coming up next week too.... argh.Good luck Marijo! Thanks for reading!
Great article Brianna- When women "fix themselves up," it makes them feel more confident and capable of dealing with the other problems in their life. It's important for women to do this. Thanks-Always-EllaYou're right Ella! When we look good, we feel good, and when we feel good we're more able to look within, and tackle the root of our problems. Thanks for reading and commenting, I love the feedback.
ITS SAD THAT WOMEN FEEL THAT THEIR LOOKS ARE THE THING THAT MAKES THEM LOVEABLE AND DESIREABLE AND THIS LIE IS PERPETRATED BY MEN WHO ALWAYS SAY;" YOURE BEAUTIFUL" AND then say "I LOVE YOU".Women feel that if beauty fades then love must then also fade and thus the rush to the beauty parlor and the silly constant preoccupation with the gym and parlored curried looks.Like Ella commented, taking care of one's outward appearance is important because it may inspire the confidence to take a look within and tackle the real problems. It is sad if women do these things for the love of a man. They should take care of themselves, for their own well-being.
Nice, thanks. It made me laugh and thinkThanks Jack. Always good to laugh and think. :)
Hi Brianna.You are a truly good friend. How's the weather in your part of Canada this time of year? :)Thanks for this wonderful article,DianneThanks Dianne. I think I am a good friend, and I'm lucky to have some good friends. The weather? Well. Tomorrow's a new day right? May even get some sun! (I hope). Enjoy your weekend!
hi brianna,cute article, although serious for your friend. lucky she has you.i dyed my hair myself, before my sister's wedding, and it was Lucille ball red, dresses were light pink. learned a big lesson there.let's say, those were real tears coming from my sister's eyes when she saw me. (did i mention i dyed it that morning?!!! :)thanks for sharing,my best,sueOh my gosh Sue! What were you thinking? I've never coloured my hair, hopefully I'll be like my mother. She is eighty and her hair (except for the odd gray) is as dark as mine. My dad however is all white! We shall see. Thanks for reading and commenting. By the way, how did the wedding photos turn out? Did your sister ever forgive you? :)hi brianna,i was able to get someone to tone it down when we got our nails done, so it wasn't too bad, and no, i don't think my sister ever forgave me.and...i wasn't thinking :)but i know better now.my best,sue
What a great article!Thank you Steve!
I REALLY like this, I think we all have a tendency to over analyze situations, sometimes it really is just about.....whatever!thanks!I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who over analyzes! Thanks for reading and commenting Lisa.
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